What you may not expect to be feeling after a miscarriage?
They are unspoken truths that appear after you experience a miscarriage.
Over the course of 12 years I experienced and recovered from 5 deeply personal miscarriages.
These years of trauma led to the discovery of 5 truths that appear after a miscarriage.
- Expect the unexpected
- No miscarriage is the same
- Find support in unexpected places
- Try again
- Know the purest joy!
Above all, these truths are meant to bring awareness, guide, and support you during this time!
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I am not a doctor. The information given is purely meant to inform not treat. Please consult your doctor for your personal medical care.
Miscarriage feeling: the 5 truths
1. Expect the unexpected
Going forward any future pregnancy you have will be tainted with the very real possibility of miscarriage.
This fear could potentially keep you from attempting another pregnancy. In this situation focus on your grief and self-healing. Never rush your recovery!
When, and if, you choose to get pregnant after a miscarriage you will pay closer attention to signs and symptoms while living in a state of hope.
When you are ready for a pregnancy after miscarriage here are 4 ways to cope emotionally during that time.
During these months of pregnancy after a previous miscarriage, I found prayer my constant companion!
As you go forward prepare for the unexpected, but hope for the best!
2. No miscarriage is the same
To put it another way, no pregnancy is the same, just like no miscarriage is the same.
Everything is different!
You are different!
The new baby forming is different!
To clarify, statistically, “The risk of miscarriage in a future pregnancy is about 20% after one miscarriage.” says the Mayo Clinic Article
Yes, a miscarriage could happen again, or it could not?
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*Always discuss your specific case(s) with your doctor.
3. Found support in unexpected places
In truth, I was surprised by the number of other women in my life who had experienced a miscarriage, and I did NOT know.
People have a tendency to not talk about miscarriage.
Maybe, this is largely because individuals need time to properly grieve their miscarriage before they can share?
During my miscarriage grieving, those who chose to share their stories with me became a great source of strength.
Even, on occasion someone I did not know very well would reach out to me!
If you know, you just know.
>>> Access this FREE download that will walk you through simple, repeatable, practices I personally used during my 5 miscarriage recoveries.
4. Try again
Undoubtedly, the idea of “trying again” will make its way into your mind. But the reality of trying again is a very personal decision, not to be rushed.
Related topics: How you really feel during a pregnancy, after experiencing a miscarriage.
During my pregnancy, after 3 previous miscarriages, I was an emotional mess and numb to the experience. Pent-up trauma was my guess.
Once the baby was in my arms, my emotions found resounding peace.
So, “try again” when you feel ready.
Read: How to navigate miscarriage grief, if you are still struggling or want to do a self-check-in.
Couples Tip: Make sure to include your spouse and ask them how they feel about trying again?
5. Know the purest joy
I tear up just thinking about this!!!
After experiencing a miscarriage you intimately know the deep hurt of loss.
When you are blessed with a successful pregnancy your joy is magnified!
Final thoughts
Without a doubt experiencing a miscarriage will forever change your life.
You will be different.
Someday it could be you supporting a friend, co-worker, neighbor, or just another mom you meet at the park.
In sum, I hope that by knowing these 5 unspoken truths you will be better equipped to emotionally travel the road of miscarriage recovery.
One.Day.At.A.Time.
Browse through the many different recovery resources.
Hello Friend! I’m Chantell…
Wife, Mother of 5 earthly & 6 heavenly babies, and love God. I blog about Motherhood. Read More
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