When someone you love experiences a miscarriage it is easy to feel at a loss wondering, How to help them?
Showing your support through gifts is sometimes all you can do.
So, “What gift can you give Her during the struggle of miscarriage?”
Over the years with my personal journey of 5 miscarriages I was gifted items, food, and service (or gifted them to myself) that brought me comfort and eased my burdens during this hard time.
Whether you are a spouse, friend, parent, grandparent, relative, or coworker you can do something to help!
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Gift of kind words
Send a card:
Sending or dropping off a card to Her is always a great gesture of love. Words of support and genuine friendship go a long way during an emotional time.
Words of support, love, and kindness will bring comfort and strength to Her. Reminding her she is not alone.
*As a reminder, please refrain from comments such as “better now than when you are further along”, or “you can try again”.
Though you mean well, these comments could cause more hurt than comfort.
Gifts you can wrap
Meaningful Candle
This candle was designed specifically to comfort during a loss. The extra elements that come with it generate such a deeper meaning.
I was personally gifted this candle during miscarriage #4 and now share it with others!
*If you live far away this gift can be sent directly to Her.
Cozy Socks
A brand new pair of cozy socks just symbolizes comfort. Any “cozy” pair will do but my absolute favorite were the pair that surprised me the most.
Yep, Wool Socks. And they have a lifetime warranty. Literally a gift that can last for years.
Gift Card
It’s no surprise a little retail therapy would be nice. Shop from the comfort of your home. You will get a mental distractions during her home recovery.
Gift card for a restaurant so She doesn’t have to cook!
Wearable Blanket
Wearable Blanket is perfect for miscarriage D&C recovery.
I was gifted this during miscarriage #5, which was a D&C. It was perfect during post-surgery recovery.
Lotions and body washes.
***NO BATH ITEMS: If Her miscarriage was accompanied by a D&C stay away from bath items, since baths are not recommend after a D&C for at least a week, sometimes longer.
Gift Her a memory
Journal
A journal will allow her to document the experience while it is happening.
- You could even write a supportive note on the first page of the gifted journal.
- Couple the journal with the Miscarriage Recovery Guidebook journal prompts.
Being a Miscarriage Survivor she could share her story with others, when the time is right.
Image to HONOR the event
Having something tangible speaks volumes when you feel SO empty handed.
My sister-in-law gifted me this custom artwork after my 5th miscarriage.
I then commissioned the same artist to create a custom piece honoring all women struggling with miscarriage.
>>>View the beautiful In His Arms Artwork!
Gift pre-assembled gift boxes
Pre-Assembled Gift Boxes are my favorite way to share love long distance. Plus there are so many to choose from.
During my miscarriage #4 part 1 my sister sent me a beautiful succulent gift box! The gift box just showed up on my doorstep even though my sister lives states away.
I felt remembered and less alone.
Gift Flowers
Fresh Flowers
The smell of fresh flowers has such a soothing affect!
Do not stress trying to find the perfect color or flower type. Any bouquet of flowers from your local florist or grocery store will be enjoyed.
Pair the flowers with a card, a treat, or just a hug from you! She will feel your support and gain strength from you.
Fake Flowers
Sending a beautiful vase of fake flowers will bring long lasting joy and low maintenance.
I love my vase filled with white roses (above). My mother, who lives states away, sent them to me during miscarriage #3.
Gift eatables
Gift Food
In short she needs to eat but cooking can feel like a burden in the moment.
Offer to help if you live…
- In the same home offer to do the cooking for the next few days.
- Close by double your own dinner recipe and take her half.
- Far way order dinner for her and have a delivery company drop it off. (My brother did that!)
By supporting her basic needs she can focus on healing!
***Feel in control during a time of such uncertainty. The FREE miscarriage recovery supply checklist covers your basic first week needs.
Gift Treats
Comfort treats! Surprise her with her favorite fountain drink, smoothie, candy bar, fruit, dessert from her favorite restaurant, or whatever you know she enjoys!
If you live far way from her you could ship her something or have a local dessert shop delivery her a special treat.
Gift time
My most favorite gift during a miscarriage is TIME! (But my love language is quality time so that might contribute too???)
The gift of TIME is a little more abstract but essential to healing. Look for ways to provide her with time to herself.
Maybe, wash the dishes, do the laundry, babysit the kids if there are some, or give her time alone in the house.
Emotional healing takes longer than physical healing.
Gift recovery resources
After personally recovering from 5 miscarriages, and losing 6 potential babies, (Yes, twins!), I was inspired to create this blog with all it’s resources!
- Read through Miscarriage Blog Post – You will find topics that help you know what to expect, suggestions to make the recovery process easier, and more related to life after a miscarriage.
- The *Miscarriage Recovery – Processing – A Free Recovery pdf Download with simple, actionable, and repeatable practices to help you process your miscarriage.
- The *Miscarriage Recovery Care Package – Includes the Miscarriage Recovery Guidebook & In His Arms Artwork.
- >>>New: Need someone to talk to? Schedule a One-On-One with Me, Chantell. I am here to support you during this difficult time. Learn More
*The resources come as digital downloads. (pdf and jpeg)
Final thoughts
Giving her a gift during this difficult time of miscarriage, in any form, will provide comfort and easy burdens. She will be reminded her she is not alone.
Miscarriage can easily feel lonely, heavy, and all consuming. It’s my prayer that you can find the perfect gift for her! She’s lucky to have you.
God bless you and “Her” during this tender time.
One.Day.At.A.Time.
Hello Friend! I’m Chantell…
Wife, Mother of 5 earthly & 6 heavenly babies, and love God. I blog about Motherhood. Read More
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